Trust Yourself
Stop worrying
I know that many you out there are worried or worrying. You are worried about coronavirus; you are worrying about finances. You are worrying about work and employment, relationships, medical issues, bills, rent – worried about life in general. Worrying is a full-time job. It’s an occupation that has been forced upon us. Worrying will still everyone from you include your focus, which must be priceless. Your focus is everything and worrying will distract you from that.
I started thinking about Worrior Solutions right after leaving the military – as soon as I started learning how to pay attention to my emotions due to the challenges I was going through at the time. I figured out that first, I must put all those challenges in different categories. Next, I learned that I must prioritize them in order of urgency to my attention. I learned that I was worrying too much about the future without even getting through “today”. I worried each time I got news about a friend who succumbed to suicide, and I would get lost in that as though I was next. Just worrying.
Many people are worrying about tomorrow, but without completing today. Why don’t we take the time to complete each day before worrying about tomorrow? What my military experience taught me was that our missions were to be accomplished. We did not worry about tomorrow’s mission. We had to stay focused and stay vigilant on today’s mission to see it to completion. That was it.
Learn to trust yourself. Know that you must first get through the now and stop worrying; that your potential is far more important than anything else you worry about. The truth of the matter is that I noticed the more I worried, the longer I worried. I did not trust myself and that worrying gave me no confidence at all. At times I even cried. I would shed tears in confusion. As I sought therapy to understand what was going on with me, most of the doctors thought the pain was in my head. How can I explain to someone what it is like losing a friend to silent wounds – to suicide? I never understood how they were so quick to judge. But I know firsthand, worrying will wreck you. It will get you off track to the point you would even get lost with a GPS. Worrying will take away your presence – sometimes you will realize later that you didn’t enjoy or even remember anything good during those worrying hours; the focus is robbed from you.
I remember a few years back, I lost two friends in one year and that worrying was so brutal for me that I didn’t remember sleeping much. I did not remember to eat food or even drink water. I remember one of my uncles called me to ask what had happened to me and what was wrong? He had seen pictures of me on social media and he was concerned. I did not know that I had looked like that. I was not present. I was not focused. And because of that, I forgot to take good care of myself. Many people out there are worried the same way. My intention is to catch you before you waste your time and allow your life to slip right out of the present because you are spending time worrying.
Are you living in the present or stressing about the future?
Some tips to remain present and leave worry behind:
Take on only one problem or “worry” at a time
Write down what it is you are worrying about – acknowledgment and acceptance make all the difference
Get the facts – analyze the facts and make a decision
Relax and leave it to God
Preserve your energy and focus on your journey
